So I was stuggling with a topic to talk about, when the phone rang. On the line was my ex-girlfriend with whom I've been broken up with now for over 2 years. I've never been one to talk with any of my ex's before, but for some reason, with her it's different. Her and I had gone out for a year and a half when we broke up, for reasons too long to discuss at this point. When we broke up, she said that she wanted to try and be friends with me. In my mind, I thought she was nuts, cuz I've NEVER had any sort of relationship with an ex. After I broke up with my past girlfriends, I cut them off completely, cold turkey, never to be heard from again. My last g/f before this one I haven't seen or heard from since the day we broke up on the phone, with her in Rhode Island for the summer on an internship. That may not sound too odd, but in my world, many times the same people will cross my path over and over again, usually the ones I never wanted to see again.
Anyways, back to subject, Amy, my recent ex, was adamant in being friends. She constantly called after we broke up, to the point of a nag, but I could never in my heart tell her to just fuck off and leave me alone. The calls finally died down, and the time between talking grew further apart. This one is different as I've said before. A part of me still cares for her deeply, for all her wackiness and insanity that she brought. We wouldn't see each other, just talk on the phone for several months after our breakup. Looking back on it now, right after we broke up, mere weeks after, my grandmother had passed away. In that time of sadness, I looked for comfort and solice, and she was there for me even though I never saw her during those days of grief.
Our roads have changed dramatically since we broke up, she's now a mother of a baby boy born last September. I've gone back to school to get my A+ certificate beginning my career path. Yet through these past 2 years, we've maintained contact. I don't know how long we will still talk for, but I am happy that we were able to get over our problems and differences and be able to have a healthy friendship. We just seem to make better friends than partners in a relationship. Of all my friends, I'd have to say our friendship is the last one I thought would ever happen. Sorry if this post doesn't quite flow together, but hey, my blog title should say it all!
Any odd relationships in your lives?
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I think you know about some of my odd relationships. I'm glad that you and Amy did not end up together though. Not a good match for the long term. But I suppose it's good that you are able to connect still on some level as friends. She's not a bad person...just very extreme in many ways. lol
CRAP-O-LA! I just typed a long ass comment here and it went bye bye without posting! ARG! I'll try to recap what I said the first time -- I have EXs that I'm still friends with and the relationships work better that way than they did when we tried to go down lover lane. However, there are definitely others that I do NOT want to ever hear from or see again - communication with them would be futile and yet, one of them still calls me with stupid made up crap as his reason to call. Infuriates me. EXs are EXs for a reason - if you're ok with what those reasons are then I see no reason why you can't move on and be friends, but if the reasons you're EXs are pretty extreme then I can understand why you wouldn't want to carry on as friends.... I'm rambling now so I'm hitting the sack. I was up late last night and was late for work today! oops! :)
None in my life. But some friends are friends with their exes to the point its just plain weird. Some can pull it off and others can't I suppose.
I have one Odd relationship going right now where I am friends with an ex, but there is still that chemistry between us that we just ignore. Good thing he is 800+ miles away in another state now. We talk a few times a week and see each other a few times a year and never until this relationship did I think you could be friends with an ex and not have sex get in the way. But it is possible! :)
ha, i sure was shocked when i read down your whole blog and found out you're related to marie! none of my family blogs and my sister thinks i'm a bit of a freak for doing it.. so yay family bloggers :-)
i'm friends with some of my exes.. i used to be on good terms with ALL of them, but some recent breakups ruined that streak. guess i probably has to do with how the breakup goes. boys who took the breakup badly didn't seem to want to be friends with me ;-)
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